Social Media Exit
Part III: Everything is Alive. Everything is Breathing. Nothing Is Dead. And Nothing Is Bleeding.
by Todd Keffer II
If there’s one thing I can say I learned through this project, it’s that your own mental health is more important than keeping up with everything through social media. There is a weird, but great satisfaction when someone likes your comment or picture. It literally means “they approve.” In this hyper social world, we want the most approval from the most peers as possible; whether it be on Vine, Twitter, YouTube, MySpace, reverbnation.com, PornHub, and any other websites. I wanted that attention and let it affect my mood. I was obsessed and tormented by what amounted to nothing more than a digital number.
Since abandoning most of social media, I can’t say I’ve had some major revelation or transformative experience. Instead of checking Twitter, I read fan translations of JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure manga. Instead of posting Instagram pics, I…read more JoJo, and maybe spend more time playing video games. Instead of endlessly scrolling down Tumblr, I watch the anime of JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure and read through the wiki of it. That may be the biggest difference from all of this. Instead of making myself look at things sure to depress or annoy me, I just focus on the things I love. In a world where negativity and anger gets the most attention, it’s important for each and every one of us to find something we love enjoy. Jojo has become that for me, thanks to its fast-paced story and shameless references to heavy metal and hard rock. It puts a smile on my face and I want to share it with as many people as possible.
Please understand, I’m not saying we should all live in bliss, or that the world is perfectly okay if only your tiny little piece of the world is ok. Be aware of what’s going on around you and be mindful of others. Just don’t let your social media usage consume you like it did with me. Don’t let your daily mood be affected by artificial numbers from people who only think of you when your name appears on their newsfeed. Don’t let that fuck boi who claims Bernie/Hillary/Trump is/was being treated unfairly/too good by the media get under your skin. Don’t let that girl bring you down who posts sad, depressive songs every day because she’s ‘depressed’, but won’t seek medical attention or professional help. These examples, among others, are why I’m barely active on Facebook now. Even so, I understand there are millions and millions of people who can deal with this stuff and not let it affect their day-to-day lives. Like most things that I really wanted to be a part of, I realize that I couldn’t handle it and it feels like I’m in isolation now. Most things posted on social media fall into the categories of “drama/bullshit/rants” and I don’t miss that one bit. I just know I won’t be there for that one fucking percent where something meaningful happens.
I can’t remember exactly when, but I do recall being hounded by friends and family for using social media too much. However, it seems society has made a complete 180 degree turn in terms of social media usage. Now you’re hounded if you’re not using social media enough. It’s like the old saying goes: You’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.